How to encourage better behavior from your child
Monday, April 19th, 2010To encourage better behavior, focus on the solution not the problem.
Hello Parents! We just finished reading two books this past month that talk about the importance of offering praise for your kids to encourage better behavior. The books are Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us by Daniel Pink and Switch: How to change things when change is hard by the Heath Brothers.
Situation: Your kid comes home from school with his report card for the month. She got one A, for B’s and one F. Where do will you spend your time as a parent?
Problem: The first thing you notice is ‘the bad’ grades and immediately focus on the problem as you want to immediately fix it and come up with all sorts of ideas how to do so, like ‘if then’ punishment.
Solution: Focus on the good grade tell your child he did a great job on that particular subject and ask: How can we be build on that for the other subjects?
Sounds simple right? But ask yourself, is this truly the behavior you adopt in this particular situation?
And it isn’t just for grades, it’s for any situation where you want to encourage another behavior not just from your kid but from yourself. So remember, focus on the things your child does good and encourage that same behavior to other things which you would like him to change.
We highly recommend you read both books and if you haven’t we invite you to come back for more insights from both of these books as we’ll be posting some more posts.
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